Self care seems to be a huge buzz word these days. There are obvious ways I care for myself: trying to do yoga a few times a week, eating whole foods, or drinking more water. But lately I’ve added some new things in my routine, and I hope these inspire you to try something new too!
Here are three ways I’m caring for myself these days.
#1 Tune into your feminine energy
Tuning into my feminine energy (or divine feminine, féminin sacré en français dans le texte) is the first thing that comes to mind when I think about self care, because it goes so much further than taking care of my body and my mind, it feels like it reaches my soul. If you think that’s a bit weird and you’re not ready to read this, you may want to skip to the next point.
The divine feminine is a concept I learnt about through my yoga studies:
The “Divine Feminine” is in no way a “women only” concept. We all have masculine and feminine energy within us. In yoga these energies are known as Shiva and Shakti, Yin and Yang, Ida and Pingala. The left side of the body relates to the feminine and the right side, the masculine.
Honouring and connecting to the Divine Feminine is an act of worship, not only to oneself, but also to the Divine Mother. It is a sacred connection to Mother Earth and to the very energy of giving birth … to ideas, expressions, dreams, life and existence.Mind Body Green
I have been feeling really drawn to and inspired by the moon for the past year or so. I’ve been reading about the moon phases and the moon’s connection to our feminine, I find it fascinating. I started following a lot of “modern/green witches” Instagram accounts and podcasts, and it somehow feels like it is taking a bigger space in my life. I also started journaling more and using oracle cards, for myself and during the two yoga retreats I organised last year. I was lucky enough to have my godmother and aunt gifting me the one she created (it’s called l’Oracle du Fond de l’Ame).
If you’re new to this and you’re wondering what the heck I’m talking about, don’t be deterred by the whole magic/esoteric aspect. To me, it all comes down to intuition and reconnecting to ourselves and nature, something we’re all lacking in our modern day and age.
If moon rituals, journaling, burning white sage or palo santo, and using gemstones sounds like something you’d like to know more about, I can highly recommend these people to follow:
- @moonbodysoul Instagram account and new podcast
- @ouitch by @joseeannesarazincote
- @womoon and @vg.venus (one of the founders)
- Highest Self Podcast
- Balanced Blonde Podcast
- Witchy Wisdom
- Conversations with Moon Body Soul
- Bonheur, Simplicité & Slowpreneur (FR)
- Entre nos lèvres (FR)
#2 Step into a creative flow
When I thought about my intentions for 2019, being creative was at the top of my list. I used to be a very creative child (for lack of being into team sports). I was always the quiet one, reading books while everyone was playing outside.
Drawing, painting, acting, dancing, singing, you name it. I took extra art classes and holiday camps. I learned how to photograph and develop film in middle school. I played the main character in the end of year theatre show when I was 10. I played the piano for a few years (although that was mostly to please my musician dad and actually brings up painful memories of failing to learn how to read music and my scary and never-smiling piano teacher who once cut my nails with gigantic scissors for coming to class with the forbidden long nails).
But somewhere between my teenage years and law school, I lost that. Sprinkle the ever increasing digitalisation of our lives, put in the oven for 10 years and there you have it. No time or energy left for creativity. I probably hadn’t picked up a pen (let alone a pencil) for more than two minutes in… years.
I read earlier this year that 2019 was a year in 3 in numerology, which means it is highly focused on creativity.
The caption says: if you are scared or have been raised in the idea that being creative is a waste of time, 2019 is the year to change that. That resonated on such a deep level with me. I decided to cut off my screen time (watching shows or scrolling endlessly through Instagram) and to replace that with creative time.
So here are my little projects for 2019 (and beyond):
- I bough myself some art supplies and started drawing again. I’m starting small, drawing little things like flowers, plants, the moon (of course). I’m following tutorials on YouTube so I can get comfortable with the idea of using a pencil again (so technically yes, I am still looking at a screen – you got me there).
- I also do some watercolours and lettering, and again following the same process on YouTube.
- A few other things I’d love to try are clay and sewing. These are a bit more expensive though or require more of an upfront investment, so maybe later.
- I’d also like to play my ukulele (and sing along) a bit more. Because I only really know one song (Pumped up kicks) and I’m pretty sure everyone around me is sick of hearing it.
- Creating yoga flows is certainly another creative outlet for me. I’ve been wanting to film some videos, but I have been too self conscious to actually go through with it.
- Writing on this blog, or for myself (journaling) is also something I’d love to do more of.
The one thing that encompasses all of these is: I’m not taking myself seriously. I’m not putting any pressure on myself to perform or to “do something with this”. This is purely to reconnect with a sense of having fun, letting my creativity flow like nobody is watching, just like a child would.
Being creative can mean a lot of different things to different people. It doesn’t necessarily have to related to arts or crafts stricto sensu. I hope my little story has inspired you to try that too!
#3 Less screens, more food for thought
Screens are seriously the bane of my existence. I know, it’s really quite ironic – for someone who works in digital marketing.
I just feel like it’s easy for screens to take over our lives these days. And not only is that bad for us in a physical sense (hello, blue light, raging migraines and ‘text neck’ – yes, that’s a thing), it’s also not great for our monkey minds. Mindlessly consuming short content at every hour of the day is seriously pushing us to a shorter attention span (latest studies say the average Facebook user spends 1 second on each piece of content), and a greater sense of dissatisfaction.
Why? Because you never really get anything worthwhile out of these content pieces. They just don’t add value to your life. On the contrary, social media is often said to promote the infamous FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), or even worse, depressive state.
So my take on this is to try and reduce my exposure to such content, and to screens where possible (outside of mandatory screen time for work, of course):
- I’ve deleted or stopped using social media accounts that do not add value to my life. Namely, Twitter and Snapchat. I use Pinterest in some very specific cases, but not on a daily basis.
- I stopped looking at my phone at least one hour before bedtime (read next point to see how I achieve that). If I’m being honest, I still look at my phone first thing in the morning though. It’s a work in progress.
- I read every night before bed. Not only is this a better way to prepare the body and mind for sleep than looking at a screen (which is exciting the mind), it also brings me a lot of joy. I’m not a serious/non fiction book reader, I read for fun. So I mostly read murder mysteries (right now: Lethal White by Robert Galbraith aka J.K. Rowling). You can check my Good Reads profile for more ideas.
- I consume more “deep content”, mainly through listening to podcasts. I particularly enjoy doing that whenever I go for a walk, when I’m grocery shopping, cleaning the house, or cooking.
I hope these have inspired you to find your own self care routine, hopefully one that involves more creativity, less screens and maybe a little bit of palo santo burning and dancing naked under the moonlight. Here’s to hoping!